This could get a little NSFW, and it does get pretty anatomical.
Usually, when I hear “squirting,” it’s because someone has seen it in porn. I have observed and read interviews with mainstream porn producers and performers claiming it’s either urine or water, editing and Kegels.
Does that mean female ejaculation isn’t a thing? No, that’s totally a thing! So what is female ejaculation, what is female ejaculate, and how in the heck does that happen?
Well, first we need to look beneath the skin and actually see what’s going on with the structures of the vulva:
You can see from the diagram above that the clitoris actually pretty big. If you are provided a Y chromosome and appropriate hormones during development and puberty, you grow a penis and associated structures instead. That doesn’t mean the erectile tissue goes away if you have a pair of X’s. It just becomes more concentrated. There are 8,000 or so nerve endings in the clitoris. That’s way more than in the penis. This may be evolutionary, since it’s smaller and harder to get to, so every sensation counts, because the only thing the clitoris does is cause orgasm. That’s its job.
If you look at the bulbs on the underside of the clitoris, and the “legs” of the corpus cavernosum, you’ll notice they wrap around both the vagina and the urethra. If you didn’t know, the urethra is the hole from which you pee, and the vagina is the hole in which things can be inserted and out from which babies leave during labor. No, there is no shame in not knowing this – it’s actually a quite common question at my parties. And no, there is no hole in the clitoris.
Now that we have those anatomical structures down, let’s look at it from the side:
You might need to click on the pic above to make it bigger. The red and yellow region make up the G-Spot. It’s not a gland. It’s not a spot. It’s not even in the same place in every vagina owner. In this region are bits of tissue called the Skene’s glands, but they’re on the urethra side. All of these structures, including the internal clitoris, have nerve endings very close together.
Under a microscope, the Skene’s glands look no different from the prostate. If you have a Y chromosome, this tissue develops into the prostate. They produce a fluid that, again, under a microscope and via chemical analysis is extremely similar to seminal fluid, produced by the prostate that picks up sperm to create semen on its way out the body during a male ejaculation. In fact, the taste is similar to the ejaculation of a penis owner who’s had a vasectomy.
During extreme arousal, the Skene’s glands produce what’s basically a seminal fluid and this builds up in the urethra. Upon climax, pelvic floor contractions, uterine and vaginal contractions, and sometimes just pressure on various structures can result in the release of this fluid from the urethra as either a dribble, trickle, sometimes a squirt, a spritz – call it what you want. Sometimes, those experienced with this event can bear down at the right moment and cause it to “squirt” quickly from the body (and sometimes, this event is involuntary).
Not everyone can squirt, because not everyone’s body is the same, and whether you do or don’t, there’s no shame. Likewise, there is no shame should you urinate, as a recent study on high-volume squirters claims is the primary occurance. However, keep in mind, the study was very small (7 women total), had no control group, and the journal in which it’s published is not only relatively low on citation rankings (which have been helped by the press, who have had to pay for the full text of the article), but whose results seem to differ from the reality of the bulk of squirting women. Find me 7 women that pee when they orgasm, I’ll find you 70 who squirt, gush, or trickle something that is #notpee. Also, I’d like to point out the journal that published this article is out of England, the place where #EverydaySexism was born out of frustration of very public acts of sexism and sexual assault, as well as the country that just banned squirting because it might be urine.
Of course, science rejects anecdotal evidence in preliminary studies like this very basic novel approach, and tends to change its mind. Does that mean you can’t pee during orgasm? That’s certainly possible, but if that happens, please know two things:
- That doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you, and it’s not shameful or anything to be embarrassed about
- Urine is sterile, unless you have an active bladder infection (drinkable, in fact), and is perfectly safe. Just rinse it off and wash the sheets if needed.
Your sexual experiences are your own. They are valid, and they are beautiful. Whether you squirt or not, orgasm or not, pee or not, what’s important is owning your own sexuality and sexual agency. Your empowerment to get off on your own terms, and freedom to tell your partner exactly what you want with confidence that you’ll get it, are paramount to anything else that goes on. Just play safely, and have fun.
Here’s hoping you experience #allthepassion!
Want more reading? I didn’t find a place to link these that worked well, so read on:
7 Ways to Know if You’re Peeing or Squirting
Is Squirting Fake?
Let’s Talk About Squirting
I proved that “squirting” is not pee! SCIENCE!